Couples Counseling

Rooted in attachment theory. It focuses on identifying and de-escalating negative interactional cycles and accessing the underlying vulnerable emotions driving the conflict. The goal is restructure emotional responses, heal attachment injuries, and create a secure, lasting bond between partners. Is often used with couples experiencing high emotional reactivity, disconnection, or recovering from betrayal/infidelity.

Based on years of research on what makes relationships succeed or fail. It focuses on re-building the relationship by targeting conflict. The goal is to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding. Is often used with couples needing practical, structured tools for conflict management, communication, and rebuilding friendship.

Unlike traditional models of couples therapy where the therapist maintains a neutral, non-directive stance, we are known for being bold, taking sides, and using confrontation to disrupt destructive relational patterns. The goal is to move out of a paradigm of who is right and who is wrong and into  the understanding that you and your partner are on the same team. Is often used with couples with severe power imbalances or who prefer a direct, no-nonsense approach.

This is not traditional couples therapy; it is a process specifically designed for "mixed-agenda" couples - where one partner is "leaning out" (considering divorce) and the other is "leaning in" (wanting to save the marriage). The goal is to help gain clarity and confidence about the future of their relationship based on one of three paths: status quo, separation/divorce, or committing to 6 months of intensive couples therapy. Is often used with couples on the brink of divorce.

Pre-marital counseling is designed to help couples prepare for marriage by strengthening their relationship, enhancing communication, and addressing important topics before making a lifelong commitment. The goal is to lay a strong foundation for a healthy, resilient partnership through open, honest conversations about their hopes, concerns, and any potential challenges. The process often includes identifying strengths, building practical skills, and addressing any unresolved issues in a supportive environment.

Unlike traditional talk therapy, this approach takes couples out of the clinical office and into an arena or pasture with horses. It is almost entirely ground-based and relies on the unique nature of horses to reveal and heal relational dynamics. The goal is to help partners become aware of their body language, tone, and energy, and how these impact their significant other. It also exposes imbalances in leadership, control, and submission within the relationship. Is often used with couples who can talk in circles for hours without making emotional shifts.